Getting Rid of the Negativity

I have some pretty great friends. Then I also thought I had some pretty great friends. What I mean by that is, I had some people in my life that I thought were really awesome. Turns out, that was not the case. I started to see true colors; I started to see their actions truly spoke louder than their words. I also started to judge these actions. I then came to the realization that judging people’s actions and even talking about them (ahem gossiping) is just absolutely exhausting. I said to a good friend of mine recently that I was tired of trying to read people, tired of trying to see the good in people. I am always trying to see the good in people.

I am not a one strike and you are out type of gal. However, if I always trying to find the good in a situation or a person; chances are there is not much good and maybe that person or situation is not meant to be in my life anymore. Maybe I shouldn't have to work so hard to see the good in people. It should come naturally. Honestly, if it doesn't come naturally, then I am judging you. If I am judging your actions, then I am probably talking about them to someone when I shouldn't be. And with that, I am done. I do not need any more of that in my life. What I need is just the positive. What can I do that is good? And hey, if I notice something truly good about someone, well that is amazing. I don’t have time for the negative actions or guessing or judging.

 I guess most of this comes from this lifestyle, the whole Army friendship thing. Friendships come and they go so quickly. We form a bond and trust so quickly. Some  form because there are those need to be surrounded by people and situations, others just enjoy getting caught up in other people’s business, then some are just lonely. I try to take my time, but moving around a lot gets lonely fast. I have been blessed to make two amazing friends here after a year of living here. You don’t realize what a rock these people become in your life. The friends who I have lost or thought I had though, well that number is higher. You cannot convince me that some of them are good people, no matter how much they smile at you and play the game.

The friends I have, they are my family. They are the ones I call when I have to rush to the ER and need somewhere for children to go. They are the ones I call crying because I miss home. They are the ones I call because I am not quite sure what to do with a sick child’s symptoms. They are the ones I spend my special moments and holidays with. This is my positive. All of that other junk, it is just that, junk. I am officially washing my hands of it. As much as I have stayed away, I am just officially and decidedly done. 

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Christmas to Valentines

My house is so bare. Today I totally kicked butt and got a ton of things done. There were so many things I was behind on, so I decided to ramp it up and do them. One of the many things I accomplished was taking down the Christmas decorations and also the tree. I was then the crazy lady dragging the tree down the street to my neighbor’s house so she could have it for fire wood. There’s never a dull moment with us. Well now that I took all the decorations down, my house is boring! So onto Valentine’s Day it is. I own a wreath. That’s it. One. Single. Wreath.

So I am hitting up Pinterest for some fabulous ideas and crafts. Tomorrow I am going to Hobby Lobby with my husband in hopes of finding some things I can use to make some adorable things. I need some crafting in my life. I plan on making some type of garland, maybe a wreath and something to hang on the wall.

I always want to do these sweet fun things, and then I get overwhelmed. I am tired of being that overwhelmed lady. I am going to do those sweet fun things. Tomorrow afternoon I am going to do some decorations with my kids for Valentine’s Day and this weekend we will bake something. (It’s the weekend so I can cheat on my Weight Watchers haha).

Give me your ideas! Kid friendly ones or nap time crafts, send them my way! 

That thing called happiness

What is your happiness? I guess with the New Year it makes me think. I am not doing the whole “New year, new me” thing because well, I am just fine. I could be better though. I could do things that make me happier more often. Happiness tends to be a snowball effect. For example, when I work out I feel happier and less stressed. I also tend to not get as many headaches when I exercise as well. I feel better and have more energy when I eat healthier. Then I want to do fun things like play games with my kids, do puzzles and heck even color. Yes, color. I intentionally got my daughter 100 set of nice markers and a more advanced coloring book so we could color together. The other night, I colored until 11 by myself while my husband played a new video game. It’s SO relaxing to me. I also started a 1,000 piece puzzle. I need to work on that today now that I am thinking about it. My husband makes me happy and spending time with him makes me happy. And not just being in the same room and both on electronic devices…but actually watching a show and talking about it or even playing Disney Infinity or Plants Vs Zombies (a new obsession of ours haha). I just feel like sometimes we get so run over by other things, that happiness goes away.

I am a generally happy person, but I am also a generally stressed out person. I always feel like I am playing catch up with someone or even myself. So maybe, with the topic of happiness, I can just try to do things a little different. Maybe not even better, but different might work. Maybe different will eventually be better. It’s all full circle for me; my anxiety, which can lead to slight depression which then leads to more anxiety. So maybe if I stick to my happiness, all of the bad things can start to go away! I love crafting, I want to learn to sew, I adore cooking yummy meals and don’t even get me started on baking. I really need to change things up. I really need to try new recipes, try to sew something, make a wreath, and organize my kids’ rooms. It begins tomorrow! And a work out too ;)

What are some ways you focus and center on your happiness? 

So those darn resolutions...

Okay, so yesterday I stuck to drinking way more water. This morning I got up and got my kitchen all cleaned up and then started a work out. I walked 3 miles with Walk Away The Pounds. I haven't been great with the water today, so I am chugging now. Tonight I meal planned and made a grocery list. Another thing I wanted to get back to was meal planning, more cooking and being prepared when I food shop. I had us on such a good budget plan before and it really worked. I shopped with cash and set it at $200 a pay period. Tomorrow my goal is only $100. I also plan on Weight Watchers food shopping. I am starting to journal on Sunday. One of my biggest downfalls is drinking soda AND eating after the kids go to bed. I feel stressed, so I justify that the eating is deserved. So I am going back to when I only ate fruit and a fiber one bar after dinner. I was dropping weight much easier then. However, Adam was deployed and losing weight is always easier when he is gone. I suppose I should fold laundry and stick to my load a day. I did fold some this morning and get the towels in. This way I can start tomorrow off with laundry too. I should also go get my kitchen cleaned up. One day at a time, so sad to say but true. I need to break these awful habits of mine!

A Different Kind of 30 Day Challenge for the New Year

The 30 Day Challenge

I am always reading about the 30 days to a better you or the 30 day squat challenge, ab challenge, push up challenge. You name is, they are out there. So I decided to try to maybe make one of my own. Make changes for 30 days that I need (and yes, a better butt is one of them). However, things like less caffeine (that one begins today, so this momma is sleepy!), going back to drinking a gallon of water a day, cutting out the soda, journaling my food intake, going to bed with a clean kitchen, sticking to 2 loads of laundry a day (so I don’t end up with 8 loads in one day…oops), and maybe developing and sticking to a better daily routine. I saw this great picture today, I will repost it. One of the things was to have time for something fun everyday. I think that would be a great one too. Watching TV just makes me lazy, but doing a puzzle, coloring a picture with my daughter, playing a game with them or my husband…that can totally take over my TV time. Previously, I thought I wouldn’t have had the time for that, but when I look at it, I can skip my DVR for awhile. So let’s add a little less TV to the list.

January is always such a blah month after the holidays but I am determined to turn it into a fun one. We need to get our decorations down this weekend, so I can rearrange the front room (which is a combo dining room and play area for my little guy). I also want to make a desk for my daughter, get a new rug for the family room and reorganize my little guy’s room.

Yesterday I printed out a workout calendar for me so I can keep track where I can SEE it. Last month, I was putting purple Xs on the days I worked out, and somehow that kept me motivated.

So it begins today, small but subtle changes. I will keep checking back in with which ones I have started and which ones are sticking etc. I hope many of them stick because so many are good for my physical health and many are good for my mental health.